Trust, Rights, Responsibilities
This months marriage assignment is to adjust our ideas about the place of rights in a marriage. I have challenged every couple I counsel with this adage: “You have no rights in your marriage, only responsibilities.”
So here are some exercises, more additions in the comments section as the week and month go on…
- How important is trust to a marriage?
- How much trust is present in your marriage?
- How can you increase the trust in your marriage?
- What place do rights have in a marriage?
- How do you square your answer with the Scriptures?
- What are your responsibilities in your marriage?
- Are you living up to them?
Read Ephesians 5:21-33.
- What are the commands listed for the wife?
- What are the commands listed for the husband?
- Using Jesus as your model, what does it mean to submit? What does it mean to love?
- Biblically, what is the difference between submission and love?
- Who has the harder set of commands, the husband or the wife? Defend your answer biblically.
- If Jesus is to be our model in marriage, discuss how the servant passages in the gospels help us understand love and submission (Matthew 20:26, 28; 23:11; Mark 9:35; 10:43, 45; Luke 22:26)
Finally, read Philippians 2:1-8.
- How would you amend any answers or statements made above in light of this powerful passage?
- How is Jesus’ attitude described here? Do you share the attitude of Jesus?
- Discuss “selfishness and empty conceit”. How are you displaying selfishness and empty conceit in your marriage and what is the result of those actions?
- Notice that regarding others as more important than yourselves is an attitude of the mind. How do you think about your spouse?