12 Months to a Better Believer
I received this e-mail recently…
I hate my life…
I can’t force myself to have morals… I want them but I can’t make myself have them and I’m getting annoyed! I know what I have to do to be happy why can’t I just do it? Is there a way to make myself not be an idiot? It’s not natural for me to do the right thing and most of the time I don’t even want to do the right thing. I don’t understand the way I think…how the heck do I get rid of my bad thoughts…I’m making myself miserable and I don’t know how to make myself want to change enough to actually do it… Do you know what I should do? I’m stuck and I’m getting worse everyday… backwards seems to be the only way I will let myself go. I suck.
Maybe your life is not this desperate, but you are probably asking the same questions:
- How do I act in an appropriate way?
- What are my values?
- Once I identify them, how do I implement them?
- MY thinking is haywire, but I don’t know why?
- How do I bring about significant change in my life?
The results are the same for desperate people and people who are not so desperate. When there are no results, and the rut just gets deeper, frustration is the result. Bringing about change in life and continuing to grow is an imperative for life. We, unlike God, are not immutable. In fact, mutability seems to be an integral part of being human. When we cease to grow, we begin to cease. Learning to continually progress and grow, in all of the different phases of life, can be the key to living a vigorous and satisfying life.
Our behavior is driven by our beliefs, our overall world view. Our world view feeds our sense of what will make us happy, what works and what doesn’t work, what is right and wrong etc. We all have a complex world view even if we can’t define it or identify particulars. When our world view is flawed, unidentified and left to rule whether it is right or wrong, we find ourselves driven by it but not understanding why we do what we do.
Convictions form the foundation for change in behavior. If you are going to change a behavior for any length of time and be successful in changing behavior you must start by examining and refining your convictions.